The recent uproar over deleted scenes from episode 207, and the resulting discussions has me revisiting and adding to thoughts that’ve been swirling in the periphery of my mind for some time now, about men. I won’t go into all that here, but this question is part of it: why did people react so strongly, and why do we love Jamie so much?
I’m sure we all have our reasons. For me, I think it’s honestly because Jamie shows up, always. As a man, as a husband, as a father, as a friend, etc. And if he doesn’t, he apologizes and makes up for it. He’s loyal, accountable, and he has the emotional range and health to actually “go there.” Wherever there is, wherever their life together takes them, he goes, and he shows up fully. He stays true to himself and to Claire, always. HUUUUUUUUGE. If guys fantasize about breasts and daily blow jobs, women fantasize about THAT: A guy who always shows up, emotionally, intellectually, and physically. We want to have sex with THAT guy! If he’s hot and wearing a kilt, great, bonus.
In my opinion, that’s the crux of the outcry about the deleted scenes. Jamie is not only obviously grieving this lost child, he actually expresses that to Claire, eloquently. We see and feel his pain. His emotions soften her. They change each other through this exchange. We need to see that. That’s the thing that makes us believe they can withstand a separation of 20 years and that she would risk everything to go back. It’s a huge reason we love the series.
Claire is Claire. She gets pissed, she tells people off, she makes mistakes with big consequences, she gets herself and him into messes, and she’s also brilliant and giving, headstrong and loving. It’s great to see a strong woman portrayed. But what’s even rarer, I think, is to see an emotionally healthy strong male who not only accepts and loves his strong woman fully, but also stands up to her and holds her accountable, as he stands by her, being tender, while maintaining his individuality, dignity and strength. YES that’s it. THAT’s what we want. That’s what makes Outlander what it is. Jamie is her match in every way. They are equals. Even though the story is from Claire’s perspective, we need to see Jamie go through what they experience together. We need to see him express emotionally, to see their intimacy grow, emotionally as well as physically and intellectually.
These deleted scenes show us that the writers and Sam can “go there,” and we want to see the character of Jamie do that.
I have so much respect for you and everyone on this project. I would never want to offend any of you, and I object to people carelessly flinging thoughtless and hurtful comments your way. This is ultimately your baby, and you and your team have done an amazing job. It’s so beautiful. Based on my discussions with some other very heartfelt appreciative fans, I wanted to offer these thoughts to you, respectfully.
I and others will devour whatever you all so brilliantly produce, and very much look forward to it.