Photo: Ed Speleers and Gary Lewis in Eragon (2006), hotflick.net
Those of you who frequent this blog know I bang on about elevating not only girls and women, but boys and men. My husband and I are raising one of each right now, and my experience, in my predominantly white upper middle class, highly educated community, is that the girls are thriving, the boys, less so. I am all for elevating girls, and women, but let’s not forget our boys, and men.
I’ve been Rubik’s cubing this one for years now. The books by Michael Gurian The Wonder of Boys, and The Wonder of Girls (which I am currently reading), have been a tremendous influence. Gurian does research into human nature, over thousands of years, and across myriad cultures, taking into account brain development, hormonal, physiological, psychological, environmental and neurological factors to come up with his theories. And they make sense to me. Girls and boys are inherently different, but different does not mean better or worse. (By the way, I think these books should be required reading for all moms, mums, dads, da’s, grannies, grans and grand da’s).
I look at Trump, and my dad, and a lot of men that age, and here’s what I see: boys who were completely cut off from their emotional experience, and resources, taught to ignore this vital part of themselves by their environment, their training. This is the form of oppression boys and men have experienced for centuries, and it does not serve them (or anyone).
When I watched Ed’s video about this project, I felt so elated. It’s an Outlander in Other things, it includes one of the more amazing humans I’ve ever met: Gary Lewis, and it addresses this very topic. And not only that, I recently attended the celebration of a Bar Mitzvah whom I watched eulogize his own father 6 years ago, at the heart breaking tender age of 7 and a half. Oh, and his name is Matthew.
I contributed to this project. Watch the video, and back the project if you like, for your own reasons. I am thrilled to see this work being done, and talked about. I look so forward to it.
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