I think it’s tough for guys today in our culture. Look around. (And before I get jumped on about how tough it is for women, yes, saying it’s tough for guys does not deny the hardships for women, it’s just not what I’m talking about right now.)
This even shows up in the making of Outlander – Ron wanted to be careful not to make Jamie seem like too much of a hero, but there was no such “cap” on the character of Claire. This didn’t come from nothing, this is a social reaction, which makes a ton of sense. I say we stop the swinging pendulum and become fully self-actualized without feeling the need to emasculate or defeminize anyone. Wouldn’t that be amazing?
There’s a reason millions of women love Outlander, and yes, Jamie. We do like heroic, chivalrous, behavior. It doesn’t mean we are needy or want to downplay our own strengths. Part of Diana’s genius is showing us what is possible in two healthy balanced very masculine and feminine characters. May life imitate art in this instance!
Check out this beautifully done video by Julia LeBlanc, where we see Sam portraying Jamie, the hero we all know and love. Claire is no shrinking violet, mind, they take turns being heroes; sometimes they’re both heroes at the same time, and sometimes neither is a hero. Such is the nature of life, and people.
Seeing Jamie as a hero doesn’t make me feel weak or like I have something to prove, it actually makes me appreciate my own man, and the subtle ways he is a hero, every single day.
Thanks Diana, Sam, Cait, Julia, and the army of people it took to make this very cool tribute to our Jamie….